The last post opened up such a lovely dialogue I wanted to add a few thoughts I have been having, now these ideas are for those of you that want to be positive, but find it hard, those of you that want to be negative can ignore this post altogether :-). First while I am a positive person, I still get sad, have down days and negative thoughts.
Being positive did not come naturally for me, I had to work at it and have been working on it for 30 years. I make the great effort because being positive makes me happier than being negative which depresses me. For those out there that are depressed because of chemicals in the brain or hormones, I am not talking about that kind of depression which may take drugs to fix. I am referring to being down and out because of the thoughts you are entertaining. I have learned through years of practice that you can control your thoughts. Really you can :-). This does not mean you stuff your feelings. Feel how you feel, be it sad or happy. If you are sad, feel it, but don't stay there. Think happier thoughts. I know it is not always easy, but once you practice this for a while you see how it works and it gets easier. When I am sad it is because I am telling myself a sad story about my life, once I realize what I am doing, I ask myself if I like the story?
No. So I quit telling it and like magic, the sun comes out again. Lots of stuff in life is icky and many things are horrific and unwanted, we are all faced with these things in a lifetime, but most of life is beautiful, wondrous and joyous and I personally choose to focus on those things.
Thank you all for your beautiful, honest comments in the last post. Happy Thursday! XOXO